A beginning of a relationship has many factors, but over time only 3 things become the cornerstones of any relationship. 3 major things that affect and further strengthens a relationship are Emotional Connect, Trust, and Appealing Partner.
If anyone of the above-required factors is not met, the relationship has gone for a toss. Each of these factors is built over years and with equal involvement from both partners.
1. Emotional Connect
Emotions play a vital role in our day-to-day life. We emotionally open up to the people who are very close to us, like parents, friends, or spouses. Because it governs our mood and behavior to a larger extent. They give us a safe space to be vulnerable without being judged.
“A lot of us want to snap at our partners because we’re ticked off about something else entirely—we choose partners and families as our ‘safe spaces’ to take out our ‘not-so-pretty’ feelings.”
Dr. Degges-White (Licensed counselor) on Psychology Today
The emotional connection with the partner is deeper and stronger. Where you can be truly yourself and he/she can be him/herself. It provides additional support and strength that there is someone who understands you better. Many a time, even unspoken words are heard and understood.
If you start losing an emotional connection with your partner, you need to work on it and try to bring back to “how it all began?”.
2. Trust
Whom will you call in the middle of the night in a dire situation? Well, whomsoever came to your mind is all because you trust them. This is also developed over time. Trusting someone with your life, or say your whole future life, need to be trusted most.
Life partners have an unsigned bond of trust, in which many “do’s and don’ts” are taken for granted. Somethings that are bound to be followed and some that are strictly not followed. It is different for different couples, it depends on the two individuals.
But one of the “don’ts” is common, no cheating. He betrayed or she didn’t keep her promise, breaks the age-old trust. And the never say never word “breakup” may come up. Once the trust hits the bottom, the relationship takes the damage.
Building trust is a mutual deed, but breaking it is an individual’s misdeed.
Relationship with trust issues seldom goes further. Either it ends or can begin afresh with old scars, which have the potential to become fresh wounds anytime in the future.
3. Appealing Partner
Be it sex appeal or intelligence appeal, it fuels the first move and the next move. With time the definition of appeal changes, but the objective remains the same – to spend more and more and all the time with him/her.
Of all the people in the world, you would like to spend time with your partner. And one starts developing fantasies when he/she is not around. You start having your next level of emotional affair in your fantasies. He or she becomes your #1 TOP priority, every thought any thought about him/ her.
An appealing partner promises you freshness in a relationship, it never gets old.
The moment your thoughts or desires are occupied by something else or someone else, it’s time to recognize that your relationship has high chances to end. The appeal still remains in your life, but it’s not about your partner. The craving to spend more and more time with your partner slowly cease to exist. And it is replaced by your work, family, friends or other people.
An appeal can be sparked by revisiting the moments of life when it was all merry. But to keep the desire burning, your partner should understand and help initiate the spark by reliving the wonderful moments.
Strengthen your emotional connection, trust and appeal to strengthen your relationship.
